To all the Fathers and Male Caregivers who are often overlooked and not being appreciated,
Today, I honour you and express my heartfelt appreciation for the care, patience and steady presence you bring to the lives of autistic children, young people and adults. Whether you are a father, stepfather, grandfather, brother, uncle, foster carer, mentor or trusted family friend, your contribution matters deeply.
Thank you for learning and listening, for respecting everyone’s communication preferences and access needs, and for celebrating their strengths, interests and individuality. Thank you for advocating in schools, workplaces, healthcare settings and the wider community, and for helping to create spaces where autistic individuals are understood, included and valued.
I recognise the everyday acts of care that may go unseen: keeping routines, preparing for change, attending appointments, offering reassurance, noticing sensory needs, sharing joyful moments and remaining present through difficult ones. In both the visible and quiet moments, your consistency can provide safety, confidence and a strong sense of belonging.
Your role is not defined by having every answer or getting everything right. It is reflected in your willingness to grow, to repair, to ask for support and to walk alongside the autistic individual in your life with dignity and respect. Your care helps make acceptance real—not only in words, but in daily life.
Please remember that you deserve care too. Rest when you can, receive support without guilt and stay connected to people who understand. Looking after your own wellbeing is part of sustaining the love and commitment you give so freely.
For every conversation, appointment, shared interest, breakthrough, challenge and ordinary day—for every time you choose patience, curiosity and acceptance—thank you. Your presence is meaningful, your efforts are valued and the difference you make is lasting.
With sincere gratitude and appreciation,
From me who see, honour and value you.
Oluyemisi OSHINOWO
Tistar4autism.