I honour everyone today who has a family member who is autistic. Valentine’s Day can take on a very different — and often deeper — meaning when you’re loving an individual with autism. It’s less about cards, flowers, or grand gestures, and more about the quiet, everyday acts of patience, understanding, and unconditional care.
Loving an individual with autism often means learning their language instead of expecting them to learn yours. It means celebrating victories that others might overlook — a new word spoken, a brave moment in a crowded place, a successful transition, a shared smile. These moments can feel bigger than any bouquet.
Valentine’s Day can be a gentle reminder that love isn’t always loud or picture-perfect. Sometimes it looks like:
- repeating the same bedtime routine for the hundredth time
- advocating at school meetings
- calming meltdowns with steady presence
- noticing sensory needs
- cherishing their unique way of seeing the world
And there’s a special kind of beauty in the way many autistic individuals show love — through trust, honesty, small connections, or the comfort of simply being near you.
If you’re a parent or caregiver, it’s also okay to honour yourself today. Your love is fierce, resilient, and constant. That counts.